The following doesn't happen all to often. Well the "mascara part" does; that happens daily.
Typically, when it happens, it's in the morning as we prepare to get the kids off to school and the adults off to work.
Typically, it's when Joe has forgotten to check a pre-breakfast blood sugar and Dave hasn't followed-up on making sure he has checked a pre-breakfast blood sugar. Where am I? You may be wondering and asking. Well my eyelashes aren't gonna mascara themselves, are they?
So, typically...I come downstairs and ask about Joe's number only to find out no number has been checked. My eye balls kinda bulge outta my skull and I then go all scholarly on Joe and Dave and say something like...
|EYES BULGING OUTTA SKULL (note mascara use though)|
"Guys, this isn't Diabetes 101!"
I then lecture them up and down about checking a morning blood sugar. Ummm, they know this. We've been doing this for 10 years. I'm thinking we have enough Diabetes credit hours to have earned a Bachelors, and a Masters, and a Doctorate (a few times over).
Dave and Joe laugh.
Eventually, I will too.
I do temper my behavior at some point in the interaction, reminding myself of the power of my words and actions. I recognize the need to be authentic and real. I don't think Joe is fragile. I certainly don't handle him with kid gloves.
I have, however, measured my words over the years.
I never use the phrase "test your blood sugar." Testing implies passing, or worse ... failing. I also try to avoid saying things like "that's a good number" or "that's a bad number." I try to view all blood sugar numbers as data. I am thankful for any data that could help guide decision making in Joe's care.
I also have some reservations about labeling Joe a "diabetic". It's never seemed natural to say something like "my son is a diabetic." So I've never said it.
And...for some reason, I take pause with the word "disease". To me the word means sick. I tend to lean toward the word "condition", which really doesn't sound any better...oh and there is the equally unhealthy sounding word "disorder". I use the words, once in awhile, but they don't roll off of my tongue. Perhaps it's hard to accept words like illness, condition, disorder, and disease as a part of your child.
A Diabetes 101 lesson on talking about the day-in-the-life.